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Love and disability. What's wrong?
society teaches us that one can not love a handicapped . Better to run away! This is the teaching with the lack of information circulating on disability, or never show on TV or people with disabilities in many other ways. For example, you have never seen a disabled person who advertises a perfume in Italy? Not me. Because a disabled person according to common opinion is not attractive or even worse not use perfume because it has its chances to put it. But a more serious message passing is that if for example you have a problem with your legs disabilities not restricted only to them ... but also affects the rest of the body, heart, brain and soul also. As a poison. The part for the whole. The negativity which for many is synonymous with disabilities is rampant throughout the individual, like a virus. That's why a person with disabilities can not be loved, his illness makes negative the whole person and we "normal people" can not love something that is evil. If we try to separate people with disabilities and perhaps our perspective would change.
Wrong wrong but we also often think that their waste is inevitable because of the wheelchair. You should agree to not like as a person ... it happens. Instead There is offended. For many people with disabilities are "normal people" do not understand anything. Both sides need to grow and for this you need to mingle, discuss, learn, educate themselves and not live-up-as is now the different tracks. I believe an exchange is fair, but applicable only when you have a little 'humility. I do not feel more able-bodied in front of you and you should not be disabled again the idea that any able-bodied have in mind only your disability. There are many people who appreciate the Person.
Cat Stevens says in his great song - "Love goes beyond" -. I would say that love goes beyond but there are limits. Limitations can be overcome only if you feel a real sense. Then we will be ready to face the world! To convince parents and friends afraid of what that person-despite being disabled, makes us happy. Because in the end is the happiness that counts right? Who cares and sacrifices of the many things that can not be done together. There are a thousand others you can do! There is love that comes back to compensate for everything. There is he who has eyes only for you. So it's really important as you are? Or rather has to be there?
From the parents of the disabled person no strange reaction. For them it is normal practice. You always expect and hope to the end that their child fall in love with an able-bodied that you appreciate as a person. Building security and joy.
From the able-bodied but it's all complicated. It's not a safety, rather than a danger. A threat to balance family ...
What ignorance! I once even heard of parents who feared that the boy could send their daughter dystrophy!
Conclusion: Anyone can love and love is for everyone. On this there is no question. Trying to live a story and create a common project is already a step ahead, a challenge ... doable!
Parents vs. love and disability
I imagine the parents who come to know that their daughter is a person with disabilities. I guess its their shocked face as if to love a person with a disability could upset the balance of a family. A tragedy, a threat, a cataclysm ... A good parent tries to understand, maybe not immediately but agrees with the test to know your guy before making judgments. It listens to you, trust your feelings. If you love it, accept the point. It certainly can not prevent a report just because the other is not how we always imagined for a daughter. A good parent should then be concerned only if the person with whom you have a story can be dangerous for you, it can harm you. For example, if drug or violent, or even if you are evil and makes fun of you: these are the only things that a parent could possibly pry into history and truncating it with force. To protect you. To open your eyes, a virtue of necessity. For the rest should just worry you to be happy with whoever you're black, deaf, blind, disabled, atheist ...
Even when the world looks at you wrong, a mother and a father should always be there to help. But often parents come together to common and are ashamed of you because you are a disabled person. Hinder you, think that it is not healthy. No matter if you're in love. You can not "is disabled" -mouth as if his father that there is just this word. Too many cliches. The same mental barriers that still remain to be killed. It is thought to be with a person with a disability means giving up many things, sacrifice, care and assistance and the daily confrontation with a disease. Nothing more. And the comparison with the Person? There is only the sick part? The big problem is this: parents often see only "the disabled" and not a person who likes, respect and protect his beloved. A wheelchair can not stop a story. Why can not love should be able to overcome a strong feeling throughout . It should ... but if a girl of 16 years finds love with a disabled boy and at the same time it is difficult against the parents. Difficult because it lacks the support of someone who encourages you in spite of others have already left you alone: \u200b\u200byour parents. And when the parents are not there, it becomes difficult to go OVER . You will suffer. And then you leave it alone. There retires. Sad reality but widespread. Perhaps because we lack information and awareness and opinion is influenced more common. We do not know enough once disability.
Myriam
